I (36F) have been caring for my in-laws for two years now. They acquired lots of debt from their 3 other children. My husband and I don’t have any and never ask for things. His siblings were given cars; his parents took out 2 reverse mortgages on his older siblings, maxed out credit cards, and still have 14k in debt. Managing their appointments, kids and the house is exhausting for me.
I usually wake up at 3 am to start my day. Today, I finally snapped. I was just tired and needed a break. My husband’s siblings have not helped with his parents at all, and my husband asked, “Why are you always so angry?” I had stopped washing the dishes. My MIL was in earshot of this. I got up, got dressed, gave my kiddos a kiss each. Told them I loved them and drove over to my friend’s house for a good cry out of frustration.

She let me in allowed me to take the time to decompress and I went home. A few weeks later my husband came up to me and said his mother asked him when I left,” You don’t think she’s having an affair? Do you?”. This took me completely off guard. Here I am sacrificing my time to care for her and her husband, and that’s the first thing that crosses her mind? Not the lack of support from her kids but that! I told my husband that I refused to help her and would no longer be her caregiver. The one thing I’ve never wavered on is my stance on being faithful.